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Community Guidelines

(Community Guidelines revised on 01/06/2023)

nargisbai is a service intended for singles looking for genuine, committed, Ismaili people who are ready to start a serious relationship.

We want you to have a great time and get the best dating experience. To make that happen, we ask all our users to take responsibility for their behaviour here and the ways they interact with other members.

The golden rule

The most important thing to remember when you’re on our site/app is this:

If you wouldn’t say, do or show something to a date in real life, don’t say, do or show it here.

So before you send a message, ask a question or upload a photo, always ask yourself if you would do the same if you were meeting in real life. If you wouldn’t, it’s probably not a good idea to do it online.

The four pillars of online behaviour

There are four key principles we want you to follow while you are part of our community.
Be safe
Be genuine
Be kind
Be respectful

Being safe

The golden rule for being safe on nargisbai is always to think about your safety first. Only interact with people through the nargisbai app or site, don’t share too much too soon, and never give out your address, email or phone number to anyone you don’t fully trust. Watch out too for people you have never met who ask you for money. Remember scammers can often be very convincing. Don’t let yourself be fooled.

This is a dating site, not an e-commerce site. Never solicit another member for private information, like passwords, Social Security Number, financial information or their home or work address. You are not allowed to use any information regarding a member, public or private, for business/commercial use or any other unlawful or nefarious purpose.

We only accept adults as members, and we will remove and permanently ban any accounts operated by anyone who is not an adult. If you find someone underage, please report their account to us immediately for your safety and theirs.

If you do encounter anyone who makes you feel uncomfortable or who isn’t sticking to our rules, it’s easy to report them. Just click ‘report member’ on their profile. And if you don’t want to hear from them again, you can always block them.


  • In the early stages, keep all your interactions on the site. You’re both much safer that way.
  • Don’t pressure people into giving your personal information. Remember they don’t know you, and it might make them feel uncomfortable. Get to know them first: they’ll share when they’re ready.
  • For our complete list of tips about how to stay safe online, click here

    Being genuine

    If you’re after a one night stand, an affair or a secret life, nargisbai isn’t the place for you. Our community is about being yourself, finding someone special and, hopefully, starting something real. So be genuine from the start. It goes without saying that we will ban any scammers, impersonators, fraudsters or criminals and may report them to the police.

    Don’t promote external links, sites, pages or any commercial messages in your profile or messaging. And don’t use copyrighted images that belong to someone else unless you have received their express permission. Please note that all responsibility for any use of copyright images without permission and for any other content you share lies wholly with you the user.


  • Make sure all the information on your profile is true, including your age and height. It’s disrespectful not to be honest from the start, and it breaks our terms and conditions.
  • Only include pictures of yourself, and show your face clearly. Don’t include group photos: people won’t know which face is yours.
  • Avoid using memes or heavy filters that distort or hide your face. People want to know what you look like!

  • Behave yourself, online and in real life

    We want our singles to meet eventually, whether it’s on a date or at one of our nargisbai events. And we want you to stay safe, genuine, kind and respectful right through your dates and relationships – it’s just the best way to be.

    If someone you’ve met through nargisbai acts badly towards you or makes you uncomfortable, we want to hear about it. Contact us on and we’ll do our best to help.

    Cyber-bullying leads nowhere. Least of all to love.

    At nargisbai, we say cyberbullying is when a person sends messages repeatedly to the same person despite not getting a response.

    These messages can undermine people’s happiness, dignity and mental health through their repetitive nature and the use of insulting, discriminatory and defamatory content, or of a sexual nature without mutual consent.

    In order to fight against this type of behaviour, here are the rules you should follow:

  • Rule 1. Wait for the other person to respond, or not if they choose.
  • Rule 2. Replying once is fine, twice is fine, three times is too much.
  • Rule 3. Respect the other person: don’t use insulting or denigrating words or send unsolicited inappropriate photos.

  • If you receive pushy messages which make you feel uncomfortable, here’s how to alert us so it stops immediately:

  • Report a profile direct from your mailbox to alert our moderation and safety team. Every report is dealt with as quickly as possible: from sending a warning to permanent deletion of the profile.
  • Block a profile so that person can no longer contact you.

  • Being kind

    ALWAYS treat people you interact with on nargisbai the way you would like to be treated yourself.

    Don’t be rude. Don’t be mean. Don’t bully, intimidate, defame, harass or stalk other members. If someone says they’re not interested, leave them alone. If someone blocks you, don’t try to get back in touch: Even if you don’t think you did anything wrong, the best plan is to forget it and move on.


  • Be careful what you say, especially at first. Something you might think is just a joke may be taken very personally by someone else.
  • Nobody finds threats, hate speech, racism or bigotry attractive, they’re illegal and we take reports of such things very seriously. Depending on the severity, they may lead to your account being warned or banned.

  • Being respectful

    Every strong relationship is built on mutual respect, and it pays to show that respect right from the start.

    Think of your profile picture and username as your first message to someone. So choose a name that makes a positive first impression, and a photo that makes the right person want to find out more. If your name, picture or message contains hate speech, obscenity or trolling it won’t just mean you’re unlikely to get any dates: we’ll ban you from the site.

    We’re all adults, and singles may send flirty and even suggestive messages to each other. But only when it’s consensual. Don’t send messages containing unwelcome sexual propositions or sexually explicit content, particularly at the start of a relationship.

    We also do not accept messages or content depicting illegal activity or promoting commercial sexual services, human trafficking or sexual acts. Breaking this rule will result in your account being removed.

    The Ismaili community is small and the chances of knowing people in common is very high. Be respectful of other people’s information – if someone has told you information about themselves it is not ok to go and tell this to someone else. What is said between the two of you should stay that way – especially if you decide not to continue to see each other.


  • Never ask for or share private information until you are comfortable to do so
  • Do not gossip about someone you have met on nargisbai to anyone else
  • It’s never ok to divulge another member’s name or information to someone else without their knowledge
  • It’s never OK to upload nudity, sexually explicit or pornographic content to nargisbai.
  • Avoid out of context shirtless or bikini photos
  • NO images of violence, drug use or criminal activity: nobody’s impressed.
  • Please respect your children’s privacy and safety. Photos showing minors, even with an accompanying adult will be removed.

  • nargisbai is not the place to advertise your business, your band, your artwork or that old car you’re selling. Spammers will be banned.

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